The other day I was doom scrolling Facebook and noticed "Mary" had commented on a ladies page who turned out to be her grandmother. Being bored and curious I looked at her grandmothers page and saw she is a prolific poster. So that I didn't have to sift through all the posts to find things about Mary, I searched her name on the grandmothers page and found multiple posts about Mary having a child. Some of the announcement, some of the baby shower, and some of the child post birth in the hospital; all with pictures to confirm who it was. Mary and I have talked about children, and I told her I don't want to bring any children into this world. However I didn't say that it means I wouldn't love a child already in this world. I love this woman deeply. I've seen her stretch marks but she played it off as she recently lost a bunch of weight, but it's obviously stretch marks from having a child. I worry she won't want to continue the relationship from what I've said. How do I tell her that I don't care if she is a mother? How do I tell her I've always wanted to be a father through adoption? Do I tell her I found out about the child she had a few months before we started talking?