Hopefully this is considered on-topic; my apologies in advance if it's not; I've posted the same (or a similar) question in several other subreddits because I'm kind of at my wits end.
I'm a guy.
I lost my virginity late (41), and haven't had any kind of intimacy/been good enough for another partner since before my 43rd birthday.
I've probably ended up more than a little bit broken because of being a virgin for so long, because it became apparent that my girlfriend had no interest in respecting my boundaries/me enjoying sex, and because of having little prospect of intimacy in my future.
(And by "a little bit broken" I mean that I'm anhedonic/anorgasmic, possibly because of suppressing my feelings out of a desire to be a good guy/not be a creep, and have a very high level of self hatred for not being good enough for a partner.)
I'm already in therapy for what my girlfriend did (which culminated in sabotaging a condom), but I'm trying to find coping mechanisms for long-term virginity/lack of intimacy.