I met my ex when I was 16, we divorced after she cheated when I was 30, and I am 33 now. Kids stayed with me full time, they are 12 & 13 now.
I am on dating apps, but I haven’t been on a date since we divorced, I have attended therapy and it helps to talk things out.
What I’d like to ask about is how do you feel about types? Like opposites attract or similar interests? For example my ex was into reality TV, horses, decor, coffee, county music, etc. and I am into Video games, anime, computers, rap/rock music etc. so very different but we still liked each other and had good years together before it all fell apart.
This leaves me really confused as to what I should look for in a new partner. When I think of what an ideal partner would be like, I come up with something like:
A woman who is into similar things like anime, video games, computers, gym, swimming, etc. who would have hobbies like drawing or singing, who is interested in cosplay, who smokes weed, and has some type of good moral compass.
That sounds like a made up dream person, but I feel like maybe I feel that way because I’ve only been with someone who was very different from me.
I’m open to dating a woman even if she’s not anything like what I described, as long as she cared about me and took interest in some of my stuff I’d do the same for her.
I feel like I’m really attracted to faces. If someone’s face doesn’t give me like a butterfly feeling then it’s hard to imagine myself with them. I’m not saying it has to be super perfect or anything, it’s just that I feel like body types are a dime a dozen but people’s faces are so unique that when one stands out to me it’s just a real solid feeling of attraction.
What do you guys think?