I got back with my ex because he has asked me to hang out together on Sunday, and we ended up having sex after. I don't regret this but I am unhappy in general with him, especially his texting style and a lack of caring he shows.
That Sunday afternoon, he didn't look like he was enjoying the activity we did (we went to an acquarim to look at pretty fish). I was late for 30 min. to the cafe where we were meeting, which he was ticked off at the beginning but he looked a bit sad too when we met? He also didn't look like he showered in the morning, I could smell him a bit. He wasn't off putting or BO a lot or anyting but he wasn't fresh. I am puzzled about that. He didn't look bad but he wasn't in the best attire (I don't know how to express this).
We went to a dinner after, which I also paid for it. I gave him money after he paid for both of us and he took the money I offered (it was like $50 he took from me, though I offered $70, he paid $130 for both of us), because he said earlier that day when we went to the cafe, he paid for both of us. I offered to pay there too and he said maybe after this I can pick up the tab and he didn't ask me to pay for it. But he said because "since we're not a couple sure, but I got this you can pick up the next tab". So I felt obligated to pay for the dinner since we were just hanging out as "not a couple".
He always always paid for everything while we were dating. He wanted to buy me things too when we were dating which I never asked for. So I thought we were not dating then because he made me pay and even said we were "not a couple".
Later that evening, I suggested we go to another cafe after the dinner place, and to my surprise, he asked we go to a hotel. Like for what I asked? We could just talk he said. I said "I am not having sex with you." He said that's fine but we ended up going to a hotel after going to a cafe as it was so cold to have some hot tea, but after we went to a hotel we ended up having sex after watching TV for like 2 hours and talking.
That was Sunday night. He stayed in the hotel as he lives 1.5 hours from there. I cannot sleep with him like I cannot get a full night rest with him, so I left around 3 a.m. though he asked me to stay but I didn't. I got home by taxi (I live only 10 min. by taxi from there as I live quite central to the city). I just wanted to sleep in my own bed and I had things to do on Monday.
I like this guy. That's why I decided to hang out and I even had sex with him (which I enjoy very much). But when I requested to talk today while work hours, he told me cold "I am sorry I am really busy today I cannot talk to you right now". I don't understand. We were gonna meet later today as he was coming to the city again, but we decided not to. I cannot read him it is so hard…
Like I consulted in here before, same old story. He blames me instead of apologizing to me. When I let him know I was upset with him because of the cold way he texted me, he turned that around against me saying "I am sorry you couldn't take that at face value and wait for a better time for me to chat". This ticked me off. I told him why couldn't he let me know to chat later or say something like "I'm sorry I cannot chat with you now because I am so swamped right now but would have loved to chat with you. I think I would be free at 4-5 p.m. can we chat then?" He didn't even mention that, he just said "Sorry I am busy today", why not we could talk for a few minutes and work out logistics if we were to meet? I think this is an asshole behavior to turn it around against me and always blame me.
I told him this. Then he said "Thank you for sharing". No nothing. No, I am sorry I upset you. no I like you, no I want you. No nothing. I told him I like him. I told him I want him. He doesn't respond to that? Why? All the BFs I had before, they always assured me they loved me or they liked me a lot if we haven't got to that point…
This is the guy I dumped before. He deleted Tinder and he was rude to some other girls he dated after I dumped him and he now deleted Tinder I know. I think I hurt him greatly by dumping him, I know he was into me then but this asshole like texting behavior and his selfishness was which led me to dump him in the first place. So I don't want to dump him again and want to give him another chance.
But I feel sad. I don't think he likes me much…though he is deeply attracted to my appearance, and my sexuality I do know this. He mentioned "I could not have talked to a beautiful woman like you before", siting his shyness and I think he has poor communication skills in general. He said we were a couple again yesterday, but his asshole way of communication is turning me off so much.
How can I get a long with the guy who has very poor cold texting skills? When we meet he is nice I think. But he is cold in general. I am quite warm, friendly. I always smile, I always kiss goodbye. He doesn't kiss goodbye. I have to initiate. I don't get it. I kiss him goodbye. I don't think he likes me romantically but he says he really likes me… He says he doesn't sleep with a woman who is not in a relationship with. But he always wants to sleep with me every time we meet up. I don't mind that as I enjoy that part too. But I need a little more warm texting and hugs and kisses not leading to sex necessarily, or just a simple phone call, how are you? How is your day? Good morning, etc. to show me he cares about me…
Is he a wrong type of guy? I liked him as a friend better. I think he will be damaged if I dump him again right? Omg…I am so discouraged and frustrated. Help…
TLDR; I got back with my Ex-BF I dumped a few months ago because when I reconnected with him as a friend (I unblocked him), he was sweet to me. I talked to him even about other men I was dating. I thought we were just friends. He was very nice to chat with and talk to. And I liked him as a person. But his cold dry texting way and always the sarcastic behaviors in text and phone calls are turning me off so much I am getting discouraged. How can I deal with this?