I don't know exactly how to explain it, but I often have the feeling that for relationship and free time, most people try to slow/tone down interactions. For example, often I have the feeling that some people try to respond less frequently to messages and try not to express too much enthusiasm for things. Sometimes I also see them online without replying to my messages for a long time, while other times they just never reply back. To me, it feels almost like they want to show that they are not so interested in our connection or the activity we are doing; almost as an act of superiority (I know I may be wrong here; this is just how it feels to me).
Of course, I've met plenty of people who do not follow this scheme, but I have the feeling that most people are constantly on the brake pedal when it comes to more "private" interaction (at least with me). Sometimes I even met very cool people, we hang out, we have fun, and then suddenly the interaction gets much colder. Are they afraid of something? Am I boring or doing something wrong? Idk.
Anyway, I wanted to ask if you also experienced something similar, what are your thoughts and possible pieces of advice on how to get out of the brake zone.
I usually try to adjust my pace and tone to these people, which seems to work. But at the same time, I find it super boring. So I often just drop the connection when I see that there is no way to go "up to my speed."
EDIT: Let me also give you an example of when this does NOT happen. I have a friend who uses whatsapp for work, and sometimes he may answer to my texts after an entire day, even if he connects in the meanwhile (so he may act like the other people I was talking about). But when we are both available, we can have exchanges where we send a lot of texts in a few minutes. With other people, this second type of interaction seems to never happen.