My (19F) boyfriend (18M) and I were on the topic of posting on social media. We have been dating for a year and a half now, and I asked him if he would post me.
I'm aware this is a silly thing to ask, but l've posted him before and he's enjoyed it so I wanted to feel the same kind of excitement and appreciation. I see it a lot and I just think it would be nice and make me feel good.
He said that he wouldn't, and I asked why. He said stuff along the lines of "What if we broke up?", "Real men don't post their girls," etc. I told him that these weren't actual reasons and I wanted to know what was holding him back so much. At this point it wasn't about how bad I wanted to be posted, I just wanted to know why he was so opposed to it. I don't think it's a privacy thing either, since he's posted him and his friends doing stuff before.
l asked him what his actual reason was, and he said he doesn't owe me a reason. He started to get irritated by me asking, which I understand. I then asked if he was embarrassed of posting me, to which he replied "a little bit" and went to bed after.
How do I go about this? It makes me feel disappointed and insecure but I also realize I can't intrude these boundaries if he doesn't want to post me.
TLDR: My (19F) boyfriend (18M) doesn’t want to, and is embarrassed of posting me online.