It’s been 2.5 years since I got married. My wife and I live separately from my parents, but I’m facing an ongoing issue that’s seriously affecting my mental peace.
My parents do not include my wife in family decisions or even basic conversations. She’s often completely ignored. For example, my younger brother is getting married soon, and my wife hasn’t been invited or involved in any way. On top of this, my father has openly said that he will only talk to “the man of the house,” not the woman. I find this mindset deeply misogynistic, rude, and unacceptable.
I’m someone who values relationships and emotions. Even when the other person is at fault, I usually try to communicate and resolve things—especially if they’re important to me. I’ve raised these concerns multiple times with my parents, but they don’t seem to take them seriously or acknowledge the impact of their behavior.
At this point, I’m considering limiting or cutting off communication for a while to make them understand the seriousness of the situation. However, this is extremely difficult for me emotionally, and the constant tension is affecting my peace of mind.
I’m torn between standing firmly for my wife, maintaining some level of family harmony, and protecting my own psychological well-being.
Has anyone been in a similar situation?
Are there ways to assert boundaries and address this seriously without completely breaking ties?
Any advice on how to handle this while staying emotionally balanced would be really appreciated.
TL;DR:
Married for 2.5 years, living separately, but my parents consistently exclude and disrespect my wife, including not involving or inviting her in family events. My father openly refuses to talk to women. I’ve tried addressing this multiple times, but it’s dismissed. I’m considering reducing contact to enforce boundaries, but it’s emotionally hard. Looking for advice on standing up for my wife, setting boundaries with my parents, and protecting my mental peace without completely breaking family harmony.