One thing I learned about dating, is that luck plays a big part actually.

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1. not luck, many people find all sorts of people attractive.

2. You have unlocked: Luck!

   Luck is a huge thing, I agree, even the family you get assigned at birth has a huge effect on your later life. That said you can always amplify your luck by putting yourself into situations and places where you are more likely to get lucky.

3. You’ve literally just explained subjectivity in attraction,

4. I think there’s real wisdom in recognizing luck’s role without letting it become paralyzing. You’re right that attraction and connection have this unpredictable chemistry element that goes beyond any checklist of qualities—people mesh in ways that can’t be engineered. But I’d add that while you can’t control when those lucky moments happen, you can control your exposure to them and how you show up when they do. It’s like showing up consistently to opportunities and being genuinely yourself rather than performing some idealized version—that’s all setting the conditions for luck to find you. The danger is using luck as either an excuse to give up (“it’s all random anyway”) or to avoid self-reflection (“I just need to wait for my lucky break”), when really it’s about maintaining that balance between accepting what you can’t control while actively creating opportunities for serendipity to strike. Some people do just get lucky early, but most people who seem lucky have also been putting themselves out there repeatedly, learning from mismatches, and staying open to connection even after disappointments.

5. 100% Correct

6. Took me way longer than I’d of liked to understand this but yes I believe this to be true.

7. I mean, this is essentially subjectivity in attraction what you are just describing.

8. It is 90% luck, 10% skill and 100% concentrated power of will bro. Its like a slot machine, you might get lucky and you might suck. In my experience, the ones who lose at gambling also lose at love. But unlike gambling, only losing strategy is not to play.

9. True, but winners make their own luck

10. This is not luck it’s just how dating basically works , but the physical attraction of a man plays a huge role , you can get away with a bad personality if you’re good looking , and it gives you this “luck” you’re talking about , which is higher percentage of meeting women that like you , you know ,cuz you’re basically good looking

11. Stop making it metaphysical and start making it mathematical ✨ if every interaction has a .01% chance of becoming a romantic connection, what are you doing in your life to have 10,000 positive encounters with people? Yes, that’s an illustration but my point is that being passive is guaranteed failure

12. You just describe something a lot of people are afraid to say out loud. Of course you need to have some luck too at finding the right person at the right time. So many variables that could go wrong 😅

13. By sheer probability of the world. There will always be at least 1 person who will be attracted to you even if they don’t know you exist yet. It’s just a matter of putting yourself in situations where you’re likely to meet someone you mesh well with.

14. This is SO true. And people forget about this a lot. It’s ultimately a numbers game.

15. Having bad looks is having bad luck, but if they can get a girlfriend, you can too OP

16. The more you put yourself out in situations where you can meet people, the better your luck at finding someone will be

17. Damn man…I really shoulda invested more points into luck leaving it at 1 was a big mistake

18. This is why I felt I’d struck gold with the last girl I was seeing. Astronomical odds to have found each other, through all the layers of algorithm and timing. Makes it harder to come to terms with being able to find someone else though