I've been with my girlfriend for 5 years now. For the most part things are good in the relationship but a big problem is our sex life.
My girlfriend suffers from depression and a couple of years ago ago she was put on some new meds which have got rid of her sex drive. Our sex life is non existent now and we haven’t had sex since last June. Last year we had sex twice.
We've spoke about it a few times and she's mentioned wanting me to initiate more but when I try she just says no. She was having therapy for unrelated reason a couple of months ago.
I mentioned to her to ask her therapist what he thinks and get some suggestions from him. She said she doesn't know and that she might.
Her therapy has stopped now and I asked if she brought it up to him and she said no. I pointed out if she doesn't do anything about the issue then it's not going to get resolved. I said that sex is a big part of a relationship and it's not something I'm willing to just go without.
I said I understood it's hard but unless she actually starts putting in some work to resolve our issues then it would likely mean we'd break up. I mentioned the possibility of talking to her doctor for suggestions which she refused.
I said I understand it takes time and if she starts making an effort to improve things then I'll obviously be patient but if no effort is being made then we'd break up.
She said I was being manipulative but I just said she can't expect me to stay in a sexless relationship forever while she repeatedly brings up the fact it's an issue but won't actually do anything about it.
Does anyone have any other views on this or have any advice on how best to approach the situation?
Tl;dr my girlfriend and I haven’t had sec in a year and a half. She refuses to talk to her doctor or therapist about it and called me cruel when I said I wouldn’t stay in a sexless relationship.