This has been an ongoing issue between my husband (of 3 years) and I. We have one child together and it was hell for me. I'm still battling postpartum depression. I take it very seriously, and yet, i still try to compromise with him. We do it only on low fertility days, doing the pullout method, and i let him cum in my mouth after. I hate the taste and smell, and id rather just wear a condom every time. However, once we didn't have sex for weeks and when i asked why he said it was because of the condom. Apparently, wearing it every time is so "suffocating and painful" that hed rather not have sex at all. Ive tried various brands (even pricey ones) of condoms. Nothing works. When he does put one on, he does the deed like a robot. Completely expressionless, quiet, just trying to get it over with. To avoid all this headache, i just do the pull out thing. I dont want to, though. Every month, im anxiously waiting for my period.
Tonight we hit a breaking point. He asks me for anal instead of regular sex, which would be the hundredth if not thousandth time. I tell him, as i do every single time, that its not something im into. Then, as we're doing it the regular way, he's trying to dirty talk about how I'm going to suck him off after. Not about the sex we're literally currently having, no, hes saying how hot the last 10 seconds will be. He knows i don't like the taste of it, so again it doesn't make any sense for him to think I'd find that hot. He's either stupid and doesn't know me at all, or he's just desperately trying to get around the birth control because he has a cream pie fetish. Tonight i told him to look up cream pie porn and jerk off, because im sick of it.
How many men in here wear a condom without question, and don't have an issue? How many can't get off with a condom? I need to gauge if hes just bullshitting me at this point. He says he doesn't, but im fully convinced that he simply has a fetish for cream pies and won't even try to enjoy sex without it.
Edit: pill isn't an option at this time. He doesn't want a vasectomy if we're going to have kids again, and I'm only about a year postpartum. I dont know yet if im done having kids. So, there is no vasectomy at this time, either. I would be 100% for it if i knew that i would never want kids again, but i don't know that. So everyone stating the obvious, like we should get a vasectomy, please refrain. I don't want to get an implant or take a pill every day or get my tubes tied, i just want to do what we're doing, which i would think should be enough for the meantime. Ideally, i would want condoms every time. I'm seeing some people say, though, that not being able to enjoy sex with a condom is a thing so im trying to be more sensitive to that.
Also, i do enjoy giving blowjobs and i do swallow sometimes. What i don't like is the taste of it immediately after sex. Its like im tasting myself, and idk it grosses me out. I do it anyway though because i want him to have an enjoyable finish too. Just want to clarify.