Hi all. My wife and I have been married for 12 years now. For 11 of those years one of her adult sons have lived in our hom. The first one was here for 9 years and was a total lush. He found a poor woman online, got married, and she now supports him. No job, he is a house husband, and she struggles to make ends meet. He was 25 when we married and was a part of the package. If I complained about him she would tell me I was free to leave.
We were alone for about a year, except for her mother who also lives with us, our home not we live with her. Things were going well, at least I thought so.
Well then her 28 year old son's father passed away so he moved in with us. He is not as bad as the first one, but is no prince. He works a few days a week, smokes pot continuously, he wakes up in the middle of the night to smoke so he will be high in the morning. Our living room is his bedroom. His mother worships him, waits on him like a maid, and ignores me. He has a lot of resentment towards me for breaking up his mom and dad.
All that aside, even he was a perfect son, but with no aspirations to go out on his on, would anyone want to live with their spouses adult child for the rest of their life?
We were high school sweethearts, we went our separate ways, but I have loved her since I was 17, now 58. SHE looked me up when her first marriage was failing and I thought all my dreams had been answered, but my life has turned into a nightmare.
Thanks for any thoughts.