27F, about 1 month ago I met 39M and we have gone on 3 dates, the fourth is tomorrow where he is introducing me to some of his friends!
He was very upfront that he has kids and I am okay with that as I do not want to have kids of my own. On our first date I asked if he was divorced, and he told me how his wife had a complication after her last pregnancy. Well I ASSUMED she died, but on our third date last week, he told me she's still alive but only becuase she is hooked up to machines and what not. That was almost 6 years ago. I truly feel awful that he and his daughters had to go through that, and at first I was shocked, but I also understand that it is a very delicate situation, and I don't totally begrudge him for not saying that outright on our first date.
On our first date we talked how we both are looking to have someone to add to our lives and like share a life with. He asked me upfront if I wanted to get married at all and I said yes. Now, I am really starting to like him, as he is very thoughtful and kind and we have great chemistry. I'm trying to not sound crazy here, bc usually I would never think to discuss the future with someone so early in dating. HOWEVER, given his situation, when is it appropriate to say like "do you think you want to get remarried?" or something similar?? Or is it even appropriate at all? As I've started dating again, I've tried to be very upfront with men and say "I want to get married to the right person" bc I value partnership, and I'd rather weed out the types who don't want that at all instead of getting invested with someone who sees their future totally differently.
I truly don't know how to handle this, but I want to be as respectful and graceful as possible while still taking care of my feelings and my wants from a relationship. I know it is super sensitive, and I've never had to experience something like that, so I don't know what the protocol is. Has anyone been through something similar?