FOR THE LOVE OF GOD, please do not overly obsess about how someone looks. We aren’t objects, we are people. We like compliments but not creepy or overly obsessive ones.
I (F30) just matched with a guy(M35), his first message was about how he didn’t know nerds could be hot, (I mention in my bio that I’m a nerd) it’s not a bad pickup line so I let it slide. He’s doing okay talking with me but then randomly brings up how it’s a shame he never sees someone like me at the gym, okay whatever… I just say well would you approach me if I were there? He says how the gym is a weird place for that… Okay yeah I agree people are in the zone, than BAM he mentions how it would be hard not to take a peak at me with “tight-ass leggings” on. Immediately no. I get being kinda cheeky and flirty, but overly sexual in a day and we haven’t even met in person is a huge NO.
If you are looking for long term do not do this, can’t speak for those who do want short term. PLEASE I’m tired, we all are tired. I know there are good people out there that don’t do this, thank you to those people. 🥲
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Someone who talks to a stranger like that probably isn’t interested in long term tbh. Lol
Either that or they are just inept.
Make me laugh!
What a lot of guys don’t get is that even women who are looking to hook up don’t want to be talked to like that right away.
Would you be willing to share a redacted version of the online profile the gentleman was referring to – do you state your other interests?, do you indeed wear “tight-ass leggings” at the gym or indeed have that image in your profile? all the comments below can be completely ignored without the additional information to understand what in your profile is creating this result from men
Just because you’re a sex negative weirdo who’s finds the lamest things full of vulgarity doesn’t mean you have to commiserate with others about it.