I'm (20F) and my boyfriend is (19M). He wants to join the army when he finishes school in just over a year.
I'm extremely stressed over it. He wants to join the army in his home country which is a 4 hour flight away from where we currently live. I'm worried i'll never get to see him or contact him. I know in bootcamp there's very limited contact regardless of whether you live in the same country or not, but it's after that that I'm worried about. I don't think i'd be able to even see him after he finishes bootcamp and all those months of no contact and not seeing him, because apparently on graduation you're only able to spend time with family for a few hours before you go to whatever the next stage is. I've no idea when i'll be able to see him, he says he'll come and visit me when he can, but I don't know what the holidays are like, that could only be once every six months for a few days for all I know.
The thing is I can't even move with him because I have to finish college. I'll still have 2 years of my degree left when he moves, so that's atleast 2 years of this whole distance thing. I keep seeing stories aswell of guys cheating on their girlfriends when they're in the army which is just making it 10 times worse for me, because apparently its very common and I would have no way of knowing if he cheated. I trust my boyfriend wholly, he's always been loyal, but these stories of loyal men who cheat once they get into the army are scaring me really bad.
My boyfriends had this dream to join since he was younger and i'd never prevent him from going, but sometimes I bring it up to him that i'm worried about it and he seems to get a little irritated. I understand he's more focused on seeing if he will even be accepted first rather than how our relationship will be once he joins, and he's always comforts me anyway saying it'll work out okay. I just want some advice on how I can calm down about it.
TL;DR boyfriend wants to join the army and i'm stressed about our relationship