I’ve been in a relationship for over 7 years, that too long distance. We just meet for 2-3 days every 7 or 8 months. In all this time, my boyfriend has never spoken to his family about us. My parents are now pressuring me to get married, and while he doesn’t want me to move on, he also hasn’t taken any real step toward a future together.
I’ve given time, patience, understanding, and countless conversations. Every time I bring up marriage, commitment, or clarity, I somehow become the “bad person” for asking. I’m told to wait, to understand, to trust, yet nothing changes. What hurts most is being given hope without action, and being made to feel guilty for wanting stability and respect.
I’m at a point where I’m emotionally drained. I don’t want to force anyone, but I also can’t keep putting my life on hold. Wanting clarity doesn’t make someone selfish. Wanting commitment after years doesn’t make someone wrong.
I’m confused as to whether stay in this or leave as i have invested so much time and energy on this and I’m scared if I’ll meet someone else. What should i do?
TLDR: After 7+ years together, my partner still hasn’t told his family about us. My parents are pressuring me to get married, but he won’t commit or let me move on either. Every time I ask for clarity, I’m made to feel like the bad person. I’m exhausted from waiting on promises with no action.