Hello! I’m new to the dating scene and this is my first time dating. I’m a 27-year-old guy and I’m dating a 23-year-old woman, and we’ve been seeing each other for about two months now. Over these two months, we’ve spent a lot of time together, we get along really well, and I genuinely like her.
After about a month of dating, I asked her where things were heading. She told me she needs more time because of her past relationships, which were pretty rough (her last one ended two years ago). That wasn’t a problem for me, and I told her I was willing to give her time.
However, after another month, I asked again, and she basically told me the same thing: she’s still unsure and needs more time to figure things out. I respect that, but I’m also confused by the signals I’m getting. She doesn’t want to hold hands or anquick kiss because she “doesn’t want to give me false hope,” although sometimes cuddling is okay — which makes the whole situation even more confusing for me
For me, two months is already a meaningful amount of time, so I asked her directly because I don’t want to be left in a vague, undefined situation forever.
I even told her directly that if things don’t feel right for her or if she doesn’t see a future between us, she should just tell me — I won’t be mad or offended. I just prefer honesty over being kept in the dark.
Up until now, I’ve always been the one inviting her out and initiating conversations. Now I’m thinking: should I step back for a week and see if she reaches out to me for once? Or is that a bad idea? Should I just continue like before for another week or two and then walk away if nothing changes?
I’d really appreciate any advice or perspective on this.