So I went on a first date with a guy I was speaking for about 5 days. For context I’m plus sized (size 18 5’5”) in my late twenties he was fit and in his early thirties. All of my pictures are unedited and I have 2 face pics and 3 full body pics of me that are recent. I had multiple friends comment that my pics look like me and even that I should redo them due to me not wearing makeup in some and not looking my best. I’m just always afraid of a man claiming I’m a catfish. Back to the guy,we met on hinge and everything leading up to the date seemed to be going well. We had a lot in common and came from similar backgrounds. We were even flirting a bit. He asked me to meet in person. But this is when things started to get weird. After asking and me agreeing he wouldn’t give me a time or date. So I offered a time and date and he agreed. I waited for him to choose a place but he also didn’t do that. So I did again…and he agreed again. We also decided we would do board games since it was just supposed to be casual. I show up board games in hand and dressed nicely. He hadn’t brought any games and said he forgot. He then disappeared to the bathroom for a bit and throughout kept randomly shaking like he was nervous or something. We paid for food separately and proceeded to start talking. He didn’t ask me any questions and kept side eyeing me up and down like as if I wasn’t the girl he thought he matched with. We never played board games and any thing I said he would contradict or make me feel weird for liking that. It felt like I was talking to a completely different meaner person than the app! I noticed he kept checking his watch so we left after awhile and I sent him a message saying it was nice to meet and I hope he got home safe. He never replied. I unmatched after a couple days to just move on. I felt like I was a schmuck for even going on a date with this guy but I don’t understand why he even asked to meet if he didn’t even like me. I keep feeling like someone like me doesn’t deserve to date. I thought it wasn’t eating at me but it just feels like the mean boys in school all over again be grossed out because the fat girl has a crush on them. I’m not allowed to like people.

TL:DR I posted honest pics showing my body and face on hinge. Guy shows up to the date acting weirded out and rude I guess because he was expecting me to magically be skinny. Ghosts me after. Now I feel like shit.


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