(22f) There’s a dating coach I watch on youtube who mentioned how especially difficult dating can be for pretty girls and I resonated with his reasoning for this point. Being a beautiful woman naturally breeds insecurity and envy in others, but dating magnifies this issue, and it’s one of the reasons why I stopped dating altogether. The last guy I dated told me to my face that because I’m pretty, he’d likely have to shoo guys away from me all the time, and that would be bothersome which is valid and makes sense. I’ve always thought guys wanted to be with very pretty girls, but the more I learn and the older I get, I’m realizing and also experiencing that this isn’t true. From my experience, looking the way I do is likely intimidating to guys. From what I learned, looking the way I do can attract shallow, hyper-sexual maniacs. The title of this post is a bit exaggerated, but it comes from a place of genuine curiosity and confusion. Guys, would you or would you NOT want a “hot girlfriend”, and why? Girls excessively labeled “hot” or “pretty”, how is dating for you?
Solutions are welcome too, the only one I can think of is toning down my looks, but that doesn’t seem fair to me.