Hi everyone! A bit of context, I have been single for the past 2.5 years. For 2 years I was on dating apps (specifically Hinge) very active on it, getting lots of dates and a couple of situationships.
However at the 2 years mark I started to realise all the time I had spent on the apps, all the thinking that went into it, chatting, filtering, the uncertainty of where is this going and a couple of disappointments. In parallel all this time I had also been discovering more hobbies and really getting to know myself. So I decided to delete the apps and fully focus on myself.
To get through the initial withdrawal period I told myself this was just and experiment until end of year. Now it’s end of year and can’t believe how much time I have for my dreams and goals. I want to keep thriving at work, exploring creativity, buy a house next year, travel. If it’s not possible with someone by my side I won’t wait, I’ll live my life to the max. Who knows, when I do meet someone I’ll grieve this time of maximum freedom.
It has been very transformative on my mindset.
I’m not saying you should just quit the dating market forever and be happy alone. But some people might be going through dating fatigue, even using dating as a distraction from their own dreams for so long (me being one of those) or a crutch to get validation and self confidence. Try it for some time and then some more.
See how your new life unfolds.