Im a 61M who is hetero romantic and bisexually. I met the most loving/caring and non judgemental woman in my life.
But I absolutely loved to do oral with guys in my life (while not attached). Call it a fetish? But im extremely turned on by a guy's natural scent and turned off by a gal's. But POV sex always felt 'right' to me. Strange ha?
I never could fall emotionally for a guy, as I tried dating a bunch of guys after marriage (to a gal) and it felt so uncomfortable.
About now, I told my gf everything about me. To my surprise when trying a couples card game,a question came up on'would you ever try a threesome?'.
I told my gf, 'yeah!, my fantasy is a threesome is to do POV with the woman I love (my gf) and do oral on a guy while so.'
She said 'she would be open to it but would feel better if we avoided that'. The fact she was a bit open to it shocked me as i kne she is understanding my needs, but not to that extent.
My worry is I'll be extremely frustrated to not act on that urge as this seems like a forever relationship (be that 5 years or 25 years). And i got so used to it happening while being single. ( i did so every 3-6 weeks or so with a close safe friend)
I hate being like this! And its been like this since puberty.
My romantic and sexuality never aligned right.
So long story short, how do I try to overcome that fetish of sorts and never push her into a threesome? (and id rather die then cheat on her)
I know it's a lust thing but it never goes away. I'm a very loving and emotional guy but heck im also very sexual too.
Thank you all 🙂