I (22m) went out with a girl (22f) last week, and I would say it went pretty well, but there were a good bit of awkward silences and for a bit I thought she wasn't interested. We were out for about 3-4 hours, and overall I liked her, but it was like talking to a brick wall and if I didn't ask her anything then I wouldn't really get a question or anything back.
I honestly thought she just wasn't interested but she texted me back like 30 mins after saying she wanted to go out again, so I can tell she's definitely somewhat interested
She mentioned on the first date that she was very introverted (I am too, but I definitely know how to have a good conversation and I can mask it pretty well), so I figured I would try texting her earlier today (about 2 days later) and see if we had the same problem. It wasn't terrible, we texted for a good 20-30 mins, but it felt like I was the one asking her new questions and changing the subject the whole time
After about 20 mins I just stopped shifting the topic to see if she had anything she wanted to ask me about (since she said she wasn't busy and was just watching TV at home by herself) and sure enough she didn't say anything
To summarize, I don't dislike anything about her as a person, but it feels really difficult to get to know her and the conversations just stall out quite a lot and don't flow very well. I don't mind that she is introverted as I am too, it just makes getting to know her difficult and feels like she's not interested (even if she is)
So is there anything I could ask her to bring up that it's bothering me? I feel like we've established that we're both interested, so it might make sense to bring it up with her and see how she feels.
Has anyone experienced anything like this before? Did it end well, were you able to get past it after a few dates, or was it a deal breaker in the end? Would appreciate some thoughts and advice!