Hello everyone! Today is my 18th birthday! I figured I’d make this post just to get some life advice in general. Any advice is appreciated, whether it be something sentimental or funny, I’d love to hear your thoughts.
What’s something you wish you knew at 18 that you know now?
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How annyoing it is to not have that unlimited and endless wellspring of energy that seemed to be driving me until my thirties.
So, in general, take care of your body. Keep it in shape, but do not overextened. Eat well, not much. Train your muscles and condition a little every day. When you’re past 40, you need them more than that drink.
Otherwise, enjoy being young. It’s a time for exploring the World. Settling down comes later m
Life is not a race nor is it a competition. Get a hold of your trauma/temper/anger issues early and address them head on. Enjoy adulthood bro you’re in for some really great years. Always remember stay true to yourself
If you get the dreaded “let’s just be friends” line from someone you’re interested in or have been dating. Do not agree if you still have feelings. State what you want and walk away, it will save you a lot of time and mental clarity.
Be kind to your feet and they will take you places.
Not to worry about what other people think.
That things get better.
That your GPA doesn’t impact how successful you’ll be in life.
Just man up and start a business NOW not in your 30s.
Invest, invest, invest.
Enjoy life, it goes by FAST.
Rare is the friend you’ll have in 20 years, most are in your life for a season.
Acquaintances are different from actual friends.
That the path to old age is not a straight line but rather one full of twists and turns with some wonderful lookouts. Happy Birthday!
My advice
-Dental care is expensive
-Ask her out, don’t be shy, be gracious if she declines.
-Go to college
-Graduate
-Don’t spend too much time around screens. Real life is *out there*
-Money talks, wealth whispers.
-Buy a nice suit, vow to yourself to fit into that suit forever
-Dental care is expensive
Happy birthday!!
#Don’t drink and drive.
#Don’t ever let a friend or loved one drive wasted.
There is always another option!
Never chase fomo.
Everyone looks beautiful at 18, enjoy. Look carefully at the character of people. The good ones dont always standout. Actions speak louder than words.
Protecting your back and building functional strength in early adulthood will prevent injury and aching later in life.
Eat a lot of fiber, like, a fucking lot. Drink water.
Get a good credit score established.
Insecurity is your ego holding yourself back from what you can be because of who you think you are or are expected to be.
Friends with drama arent worth keeping, family too tbh, but be careful not to burn too many bridges.
You wont experience life or meet people or make good memories if youre always at home and not going out and about.
Keeping busy, with ample time to rest in between, is incredibly important for our dopamine drive, and being on the phone or watching tv doesnt count.
Learn to do as much as you can by yourself, cooking, baking, sewing, minor car maintenance, haircuts, that’ll save you so much in the long run and can help you provide for others you care about too.
Invest in a all world etf
Don’t stick your dick in crazy.
Seriously, if the girl/guy’s bringing drama then get out.
Look after your knees and teeth
Don’t scrimp on buying anything that separates you from the ground (shoes, mattress, tires)
Embrace your shagging-around phase, and dont judge others for doing the same. If that phase doesn’t come, dont worry.
You are the company you keep
You’re at the beer drinking phase of life. Move onto clear spirits sooner than later. Your body will thank you
Happy birthday!
It’s going to be hard – *really* hard – at times, but if you work on yourself and believe in yourself, it’ll all be okay.
1) it’s more important to be content than struggle to match others expectations. My life was miserable until I decided to just do what makes me happy. No more doing what my parents expect of me or what others think I can accomplish. I was a super high achiever in high school, went to college for engineering because it’s what my parents and teachers expected. Problem is, I’ve never really had any motivation for being at the top of anything. I’m much more happy coasting and having an easy life. I also used to be embarrassed of some of my hobbies, dad would make me feel as if they’re childish or I needed to grow up. I’m heading to a Pokémon card tournament in a few hours and I’m really looking forward to it.
2) You only get one life, use your time wisely. This is aimed more at career choice than anything else. From 19 to 31 I had a high stress, high reward career with long hours. I was becoming miserable. I chose to change careers to teaching for three reasons. Less stress, way less work hours (I did the mark and as a teacher I have about 6 years more of free time by the time I retire… this does not include sleeping hours). Also, helping a student is more rewarding than helping a company.
3) Adult life feels like years of pretending you know what you’re doing while feeling lost most the time. This is normal.
4) Addiction can happen to you. Cigarettes were super easy for me to quit but alcohol nearly took me out in my mid 20s. Careful with this and remember to moderate.
5) It’s never too late to change. Changed careers (and finally got my undergraduate degree) at 31 and had my last drink at 28.
6) spend time with your grandparents and other family members.
7) Treat your body well. Keep yourself at a different weight, stretch before exercising, rest when you need it. Aches and pains from high school are making themselves known to me now.
8) sleep is way more important than you think. Try and get at least 6 hours minimum. More if you can
Have a direction and move towards it. Doesn’t matter what it is… as long is it prepares you for the future you hope to create.
You can change the direction when you want and it might take longer than anticipated … but keep moving towards some goal
Be aware of advice, those too keen to give it revel more in their own words rather than care for how they may help.
When I was 18, I was too stupid to appreciate the importance of compound interest. To my parents’ credit, they did try, although their advice was the typical boomer mentality of socking it away in a savings account. However, if I had invested even $1,000 a year in SPY and done nothing but buying and holding it (reinvesting dividends), I’d have close to $60,000 today. That’s a downpayment on a house, paying off a couple cars, a good start to saving for your own future kids’ college education, or just a great place to start saving for your own retirement. So yeah, invest early. Even small amounts. Right now, time is on your side.
Oh, and also, be fit. Go to the gym and take care of your body. You’ll have more success with women, and you’ll feel better mentally and physically. You don’t need to go every day, but make it a habit of going a few times a week. Again, time is on your side right now, so small investments now will pay off big time for you later.
I’m glad I wasn’t on this damn website
Most people have one or two vices that own them. Be it drugs, alcohol, sex, money, caffeine, etc.
Open your eyes and you’ll it everywhere. Understandably, you’re human and will be susceptible to such vices but you don’t have to be owned by them.
Learn from your mistakes. Do not beat yourself up over them, you will make them.
I wish I knew the power of compounding interest
Listen more. Say less.
Think before you react. Oh and so so so much more. Read these comments and do better than most of us have.
If you want to do something and it makes sense, then go for it. I spent so much time worrying about what others thought. People will always find a reason to judge you regardless.
Let go of people who do not add value to your life. Also, don’t compare yourself to others. Do what’s best for you.
In general, things work out, so don’t stress too much about important decisions.
Save your money. Invest. Date but also take time to be on your own, figure out what you like. Never have kids with the wrong partner. Oh and HAPPY BIRTHDAY, live your life to the fullest 🎂
Condoms.
Never skip condom day.
When you are ready to have kids and you 100% want to start a family and your wife/partner is 100% on board and ready to go, that’s when you stop using condoms. Not a day before.
Also get tested for sexually transmitted infections before each new partner.
Some timeless truths? Your mind is your own, and your brain works for you. Identify who and what you care about and find kind ways to repel those who try to manipulate you with guilt and, “obligation.” Some people are wonderful and amazing and some are absolute garbage and that’s the way it’s always been. Identify what you can and can’t do anything about and keep a list. Thoughts about revenge are a total waste of energy unless you are trying to stay awake on a long drive. Find the cutest, healthiest, smartest girl you can and do whatever you can to win her heart without ever expecting a thing in return. If she doesn’t fall in love with you, find another one. People have been saying the world is ending and that life is meaningless forever. Even if it’s true, and it isn’t, that’s not the way to live. If you are looking for faith and gratitude, be grateful to be alive and have faith in yourself, that you can learn anything and that you can take care of yourself. One more thing about women is they will question your faith, your abilities and your confidence at least once a month. When this happens, acknowledge their feelings (anxiety, frustration, insecurity) and you can even pretend to feel what they feel, but remember that you have balls and can do anything you put your mind to. Also, it’s fun to live. As long as you enjoy learning and changing and constantly re-learning that you are both amazing and worthless as a cat turd, you’ll never run out of fun things to do.
You’re enough. Right now. Just as you are
Have fun while you’re young but plan for the future and don’t do anything to permanently derail you, especially pregnancy, addictions, or debt.
You’re at the best time of your life to take advantage of compound interest so if you are in a place you can start putting even small regular amounts of money towards retirement it will seriously pay off down the road.
Take care of your body, it’s easier to stay in shape than get back in shape especially as you age.
Everyone is faking it, they just get better at pretending as they get further in their career. It took me 12 years to realise that people who reached middle to upper management roles were not more competent, they were just better at tossing that salad or maintaining their territory than the rest of their colleagues.
Invest what you can. Compound interest is amazing
Be careful who you choose to have as friends. Who you keep around will determined much of your early outcomes in life, whether you like it or not.
Enjoy life a few more years without real responsibility. Kiss girls. Have fun. Make mistakes. Learn from them. It’s all downhill from here. I’d go back to 18 in a second.
95% of what will happen to you gets set in motion by your past and present choices. 5% is a bit of luck.
You’re in no rush to settle down and start a family. I got married at 20 and have two kids. I’m 36 now, still married but me and my wife reflect on it every once in a while that we never enjoyed one another exclusively as long as we should have.
Stay in shape, take care of your teeth, invest small amounts even if you don’t have a lot.
Also, you’ll blink and you’re 45.
Happy 18th, bro.
Take your career seriously , it’s more important than you realize now.
Avoid casual relationships, especially getting intimate; they lead to trust issues and weaken real bonding later.
Keep your friend circle strictly small but genuine.
Take care of your health.
And travel strictly solo whenever you can , it’ll help you grow.
1) stretch every day.
2) Make a budget, and stick to it. NEVER spend more than you make.
3) NEVER compare yourself to others. You don’t know their journey, they don’t know yours. They could have the nicest of everything and actually be in debt like no other.
4) Don’t put your dick in crazy, and wear a condom when you put it in nice.
5) Start investing in retirement today, and become a master of compound interest.
6) The only person you need to be better than is who you were yesterday.
Dont bet on sports
1. People care way less about you than you think. Picture how much time you spend thinking about anyone who isn’t your immediate family or friends – that’s how much other people spend thinking about you.
2. If you don’t try you can never fail. But you also can’t succeed.
3. Consistency beats talent 99% of the time. Keep working hard and you’ll eventually pass all the people who tried the same thing an gave up.
* Start investing early and consistently
* Work out regularly (cardio and resistance training)
* Don’t get fat
* Don’t stay in a relationship that isn’t working for you
* Look after your body, the injuries/ailments you pick up over time you have to live with forever
* Who your spouse is and whether you have kids or not are some of the biggest decisions you will make, do not make them lightly
Every decade improves on the previous one. Your 20s will be better than your teens, 30s better than your 20s, and so on
There is nothing worth your peace of mind. No amount of money, women, men, fame, popularity, awards, etc are worth destroying your ability to live with a clear head and peace of mind.
Consistent work everyday beats frenzied dedication. Just pick things that are important to you and work on them for 20 minutes everyday.
1) don’t spend any energy fighting things you can’t control, wether that’s people or situations.
2) If you or somebody else is not in imminent danger/distress, you have time to pause, gather yourself, and assess the situation.
3) Surround yourself with people that make you better; this goes both personally and professionally. If you’re not rich and/or famous, most people will not care about if you succeed. When you find someone who does, keep them around.
4) Its never too late to be a better person. If you can’t afford to give money to helping others, give your time. If you feel stuck professionally, find someone to mentor you or start looking elsewhere.
Do what’s best for YOU! Save your money and don’t try and be cool by impressing your so called friends. In 10years not many of them will be around. Find something you want to do early so you can build upon in as time goes. Also please be careful who you lay down with, marry and/or have kids with your future is dependent on those major decisions. Anyway happy birthday kid enjoy it!!