I mostly lurk, but my husband and I are both in need of advice. We have a couple roommates/friends, and they’ve been telling us both that we’re growing apart, that our marriage is in trouble, that there’s a lot of damage ECT.. He and I finally had the house to ourselves to talk, and both of these so called “friends” Have told both of us things that the other apparently said, but we’ve never actually said.
He and I started comparing notes, and it’s looking like both these women are gently trying to encourage us to split. By saying to me that we’ll all still be friends, and by saying to him that if things get bad they’re going to cut me off.
He also told me that apparently they think I would come after him career wise, and just saying awful things about me when they get him alone. He shuts it down, and tunes it out, but I can tell by how different I’ve been getting treated lately.
I feel ostracised, and shut out, and both my husband and I feel like we’re going mad, because when we discuss things alone, there’s literally no problems or distance, but these two so called friends keep saying that we’ve grown apart, and that there’s distance.
We have the occasional argument, every couple does, but when no one sticks their nose in it, we resolve it just fine.