Good morning it kills me to write this but I just can’t get anywhere with my girlfriend of 5 years she is emotionally draining me to the point my body is becoming ill I am breaking out in skin conditions and feel chronically fatigued. It’s so hard where to start but my girlfriend is constantly stressed and not nice to our son to the point he needs constant attention and reassurance from me to feel ok. She speaks to him in a not nice tone constantly and tells him her problems as if it’s his to deal with things like mommy’s had a horrible day what do you want me to do? Or do it yourself and proceeds to sit on her phone constantly and pushing away any problems. She is hot and cold with me I feel like this is to keep me trailing along. Some days she is ok about once a week then the rest of the days are hell. She always has a bad stomach or a headache whenever I ask to do anything with her like go out for some lunch or similar. She could be fine but as soon as she knows I need some love she will say she is not well and avoid any kind of cuddle or kiss. If I ever try to talk to her calmly about any issues she says I’m overreacting and immediately switches off and gives me the silent treatment. She leaves my messages on read and won’t get back to me but will be on her phone constantly. It’s hard for me to pinpoint the actual things she does now as my mind is so far gone and so puzzled I just feel sick and hopeless. Thank you to whoever can give me some insight into this. I do absolutely everything around the house and get no recognition or even a thank you. More things that are happening is she is guarding her phone like it’s the last thing on earth it’s always face down and notifications turned off and she sleeps with it under her pillow. Where she says she has been does not always add up among more things that are similar to this. She I feel like I’m in a relationship with a room mate. I can’t really take much more I just need some clarity thanks