Hey everyone. Me and my girlfriend just reached 4 months together. At the start of the relationship, I took things slow because wow want sure that I was feeling the right things. I’m still healing from childhood neglect and see what that means for my future relationships. But after the last month, I think I’ve confirmed that I’ve lost feelings. She didn’t do anything wrong, she’s actually been amazing to me. But I know I’ve lost feelings and don’t want to continue to lead her on.
That being said, she invited me to Christmas with her family. Many of whom I just saw recently celebrating her birthday. And while I said maybe and never confirmed, her family has apparently jumped the gun and started getting me gifts.
On top of that,, my birthday is coming up. And she told me just today that she bought me my gift. Now I feel bad that she’s spent money on me.
I don’t want to have to pretend for another month and then duck out of the relationship. I was hoping to break up with her this Sunday since we’ll be together away from both our homes and going home separately on the train.
I really don’t want to ruin her holiday. I don’t know what to do.
Do you think it’s selfish to breakup before the holidays?