Me (31F) and my boyfriend (35M) have been together about a year and had a disagreement a few days ago and he hasn’t contacted me since. I won’t go into detail on the argument, but the essence of it was I made a small, reasonable request to him and he shut me down, he became defensive and sarcastic. I told him to let me know when he was ready to have a proper conversation about it to come to resolution, and I’ve had nothing from him since. It’s been 2 days and it’s the longest we’ve ever not spoken.
I feel like it’s mentally torturing because I just want the conversation to happen so we can be good again, but the ball is in his court to decide when he’s ready. We have a few international trips planned in the next few weeks and i want to focus on us enjoying those rather than this distance, i truly didn’t expect my small request to bring such a hostile response. I don’t want to speak about this to my friends, he’s a really good guy, I love him very much and does a lot for me so I don’t want to paint him in a negative light, so I’ve turned to Reddit!
So my main questions are, what do you do when you experience this silence? Just stay silent also and wait on him to reach out?
TL;DR: my boyfriend and I had a disagreement, I asked him to have a proper conversation when he’s ready. It’s now been 2 days of silence which is the longest we haven’t spoken.