I’ve been seeing my boyfriend for just over half a year now and the sex is pretty good however it’s very vanilla and I’m someone who enjoys a bit more spice. I want to ask him if he can start being more aggressive/dominant with me in bed, things like manhandling, slapping, choking etc, however I don’t know how to go about it, from what I’ve gathered he’s pretty vanilla and I don’t want to make him uncomfortable, along with that there’s been a couple times where I’ve asked him to be “rough” but all he really does is thrusts a-little faster and deeper. I’ve also asked him to spank me when we’re in doggy and he does it occasionally but it’s very weak, he said he always feels really hesitant to do it because he’s worried he’s going to hurt me (which is really sweet lol). I’ve assured him is not a problem and that id let him know if he was taking it too far but he’s nowhere near taking it too far by my standards yet. Another reason I’m hesitant to ask anymore of him is that I think he gets quite anxious about his performance therefore I don’t want to put anymore pressure on him as I want the experience to still be enjoyable for him. Any advice on how I can communicate this to him and encourage him a little more without making him uncomfortable or crossing any boundaries.