my boyfriend (21) and i (19) have been together for a year now and we always had different approaches on sex.
our first time was 3/4 months after our first date, because i had only had sex once before and i still felt very clueless about it all. He was obviously very much ready as he had attempted to start it a couple times before (about 2 months after our first date)
when we started doing it on the regular i felt somewhat pressured into doing it more, as he mentioned that we “never did it” or that i “was never in the mood” he says this because he said he felt a bit embarrassed that he always had to be the one to initiate it and that it seemed as if a was never horny.
the thing is he is always horny. he has never turned me down if i try something , which i realized a little ago. Is that normal? i know we are young and it’s expected for a guy to be that horny but it annoys me that i can’t lay down with him without him trying something or i simply had to stop sleeping in my underwear and a shirt if i just want to sleep.
feel kinda bad but i had to lie about still being on period before just to avoid sex, because sometimes i just want to be fall asleep being hugged.
pd: how many times in a month would you guys consider too low ??
edit: he is a good lover. when we have sex i enjoy it but sometimes it’s hard for me to finish or it hurts after a while and i feel like that could be affecting my sex drive( don’t know if it makes sense).
Also i’ve dropped hints or casually mentioned that i want to switch it up in the bedroom a bit but we just keep doing the same and i feel like it may not work on me, how can i approach him about being a bit more bossy…?