​Hey Reddit, I need some outside perspective and advice on a hurtful situation.
​My fiancĂ© (26M) and I have been together for 3 years and living together for 2. This past weekend, he proposed in a way that was deeply personal and incredibly meaningful. I was over the moon and immediately shared the news with my mum and my bestfriend. The two people who are closest to me. My mum was on cloud nine, while my friend's reaction was…different.
​When I told her, I got a short "Congratulations" followed by complete radio silence and one-word replies. She's vague, cold and incredibly distant, which is the total opposite of her. I've tried calling her, changing the subject, and reaching out (trying to understand the issue), but I'm being met with a total shut-down. ​I know she's fine otherwise because she's active on social media and our mutual friends have seen her out and about. This silent treatment is purely directed at me.
​She is genuinely one of the most important people in my life. But ever since the start of my relationship with my fiancé, she has actively disliked him, despite them having spoken for maybe two minutes total over three years.​What is even more bizarre, over time, she demanded that I stop talking about my fiancé and my relationship altogether. I complied with this for the sake of the friendship. While she knew the relationship was serious and moving forward, I was very strict about not discussing it. ​My fiancé and my best friend are both, individually, people with incredible character and morals, and they are the two most important people in my life, other than my parents.
​I am trying to build a future with the man I deeply love, but I don't want to lose my best friend of over a decade.
​My question is: What can I realistically do in this situation? Do I need to force a conversation, or give her space? Is this the friendship ending? What possibly could be the root of the issue here? I know how she feels about him, but I hoped that she would be able to at least be happy about me living the life I wanted.
Any advice would be appreciated. Thank you!