29F. I used to see this guy for a while, and it was fun at first, but eventually I started to notice a shift and asked him about it. He said he had been seeing someone else too, and felt a spark with her, but not me. Recently, I asked him what I may have done wrong. He said he "didn't feel seen"
I……am genuinely at a loss. I thought we connected, more than I did with people in my past. but he said he didn't feel seen? He told me so much about his life, I listened actively, even held him as he cried at one point. I made it a point to ask how he was feeling, emotionally, when we would talk. I tried to treat him for dinner every once in a while, I expressed interest in his interests. I validated him when he told me some REALLY dark stuff that people usually judge/blame men for. I just don't understand. How do I always just, fall short?? For some, I'm physically unattractive. For others, I'm too tall, too dark skinned. And now I don't make people feel seen?
I don't know what to do. I don't want to BEG for someone to like me, I refuse. But, it seems that even when I thought things were going right, and when I put in my all, it's not enough. I'm so fucking tired.