Okay so this one’s a long one, so let’s go.
My gf (F22) and I (M22) have been dating for a few years now, and she has never been a club person, party person, nothing of the sort. Recently she has reconnected with a friend, this friend is also around our age, but her friend sleeps around a lot and drinks a lot, and I find her to be a bad influence on my gf.
So my gf has been going out alot more, and well, I’m not someone who has a lot of money. My gfs friend, she gets her dinners paid by rich men, I’m talking 5 star $300 steaks meals. So my gf has been going out with her to dinners, and she’s gone to a few clubs now for the first time, strip clubs, and nothing is honestly wrong with going out, but this is new.
Well a few days ago she went out with her 2 gfs, one being the friend she reconnected with. The friend and the other person were making out with 2 random guys, my gf told me she felt uncomfortable and awkward and walked away to maybe find a table to make some new friends. She ended up sitting at this table with 2 guys. They talked for a while she told me, and one of the guys leaned in, and my gf said she froze up, and the guy kissed her, and my gf said no, stood up, and walked away crying.
The next day she told me. We talked a bit about it but honestly I was just at a loss for words so I didn’t say much. I’m not really a fan of her going out to these clubs, and my fear was that something like this would happen, and it happened even if she wasn’t the one to initiate it.
I ended up asking her if she attempted to pull away at all, or why she didn’t put her hand in front of his face, and if she saw this kiss coming from a mile away or if it was super random to the point where she didn’t see it coming.
This got her furious, mad, to the point where she was saying I was giving a terrible response. She was a victim in this and was violated in this moment, and I’m asking if she tried to pull away.
Before I brought the pull away question up I did say I’m sorry that happened to you, and I appreciated she told me pretty much right away. But I felt I could ask more questions.
So the script was somehow flipped on me, and she blew up at me, saying I’m being a robot by not understanding the situation, not supporting her during this time.
What is the best way to move forward?