Hi Reddit. I’m '24F', and my close friend is '23NB'. We’ve been friends on and off for a few years—mostly because one of us would end up in a relationship, and things would naturally drift apart. I recently became single again, and since then, our friendship has really rekindled.
Everything between us has always been pretty platonic, even though I’ve had a kinda crush on them for a while. I never said anything because I wasn’t sure if they felt the same way.
Lately, though, we’ve been hanging out more—usually once a week, but recently a few times a week—and things have felt… different. The last time we hung out, they got really emotionally intimate with me. They told me how happy they were that I was there, how they’ve always thought I was such a cool person, and that they want me in their life for a long time. They even said they think we’re good for each other because we balance each other out.
We hung out again today, and they said something similar—how comfortable they feel with me, how they love our time together, etc. All of this makes me feel like maybe they do like me.
Here’s where I’m stuck: their “type” has always been emo white girls… which I am very much not. So part of me is scared I’m imagining things or misinterpreting closeness for interest. Can someone’s type realistically change, or does attraction naturally expand if there’s a strong connection? Or am I being delusional?
TLDR: I have a friend with history and am wondering if I should go for it if I'm not their typical "type".