Throw-a-way for obvious reasons. As well I’m on mobile so I’m sorry for any formatting issues. Also, I know I’m the problem in this situation and just need some kind of guidance on what I should do or say.
Long story short, I have had some chronic health issues and I was unaware of these until after my partner (Rory) and I got together. We’ve been together for over 3 years and we have had 12 months of us being in a “normal” relationship before my health stuff kicked in. I had to move back with my family last year as I was unable to take care of myself.
Where things get tricky is that my family is not a fan of him. This is largely due to him being rude to some family members. So he’s unable to visit me when I’m feeling under the weather. And unfortunately, my health limits what time I can have outside of the house. Between appointments and surgeries all of my time is spent resting. This is where I know I’m the one in the wrong. Cause I do not communicate as much as I should or would like to.
He was quite supportive in the beginning but as time has gone on, it’s becoming more of a chore on my end and I have constant anxiety speaking with him. He regularly gives me one word replies when I’m trying to have a meaningful convo (either over the phone or by text) or just seems very disinterested. Which I’m very disinterested in my day to day as well. The only updates I ever have is what I watched on television or read in the news. I have spoke with him about it and he says that he gives off these vibes because he thinks our relationship is weird and he doesn’t know what to do or say. I ask if he wants to break up and he always says no and that he loves me. But the energy is constantly off. As well as our minimal communication on my end, it seems like we should just call it?
For those with partners with health stuff, was there anything that helped your relationship thrive? Should I just end things with him so he can go on and find a suitable partner that isn’t sick? I understand that this can be hard for partners of sick individuals. It seems like there’s no end in sight on my end (my health is deteriorating and it’s becoming harder to do simple tasks) and on his it seems like he’s starting to resent me or have low expectations of me. And that’s also weighing on me as I don’t want the acceptable norm to be little and hostile communication.
Any help would be appreciative.
TL;DR I’m sick and it’s negatively affecting my relationship. Communication is lacking on my end and as time has gone on, he’s been getting more hostile. Should I just end things so he can be with someone who is healthy?