My girlfriend and I have been together for almost 2 years and things are generally good but theres this one thing that drives me crazy. She keeps committing us to plans without checking with me first. Like last weekend she told her mom we'd come over for brunch on Sunday and I had already made plans to watch the game with my buddies. When I told her I couldn't do it she got upset and said I was making her look bad in front of her family.
This happens atleast once or twice a month. She'll agree to hang out with her friends and their boyfriends, say yes to her parents for dinner, or even book things for us without asking. Last month she signed us up for some couples cooking class because her coworker recommended it and she thought it would be "good for us." I had to go because she already paid for it and I felt bad.
I've tried talking to her about it multiple times. I've explained that I need to be consulted before she makes plans that involve me and she always says sorry and that she'll do better but then it happens again. She says im being difficult and that couples should be flexible and just go with the flow. But like I have my own life and schedule too?
I love her and we have some money set aside for our future together which makes me think long term but this issue is really starting to make me question if we're compatible. Am I being unreasonable here or is this something that needs to be addressed more seriously? How do I get through to her that this isnt okay without seeming like im trying to control everything?