Hi all,
Been dating a girl for about 13 months and we have started to discuss finances a bit more now that the honeymoon phase is over. At first I was always paying for most of the nights and evenings out because I was the one planning everything and leading in that regard – inviting her out on dates, suggesting certain activities, etc. However, recently we have begun to take trips together and she still insists that I pay for everything – or at least the vast majority the cost of the activities including flights and hotels on trips we have planned together. Her logic is that she contributes to the relationship in other ways – emotional support, maintaining her flat (we both spend a lot of time there). She has told me that we should both "lean into" our respective strengths and mine is on the financial side, while hers is on the emotional and qualitative side more.
We even did some couples therapy for a "check in" regarding some minor issues that came up regarding our cultural and religious backgrounds (unrelated/non-issue now). However, she has even suggested that I pay for the entire therapy process because it was her idea to initiate therapy and she provided me with a bit of an intro/background as to why it would be a good idea at our stage to look into it – claiming that this "intro" saved us a lot of time and money.
For reference, we are both working professionals with graduate degrees that make 6 figure incomes/top decile earners in our country.
Can someone please give me some insights?
EDIT: I should clarify that she has paid for some notable items such as dinners on certain occasions like my birthday dinner 1 month ago for the two of us, or a round or two of drinks when we've been out with friends of ours. We have exchanged some nice gifts with each other as well. Sot he financial component is not entirely absent, but is somewhat one-sided in my view.