Maybe this preface will help, idk:
I was not raised in an affectionate household. I was not cuddled, I did not co-sleep with parents as a baby, I had to ask for physical affection growing up. I don't like to be held unless I really need to be consoled, and cuddles I rarely crave.
My, 23F, new boyfriend, 25M, of 6 months is very physically affectionate, it's one of his main love languages. I appreciate his efforts in making me feel loved, beautiful, etc. But a lot of the time it's overstimulating, and I communicate that.
He pouts and sulks when I'm uncomfortable with his touch, so much so that it feels emotionally manipulative sometimes. It's okay for him to feel hurt that I'm overstimulated by him rubbing on me or kissing me, but it's not okay to make me feel bad for being physically sensitive. An example is when I come home from work, I don't want to be rubbed up on unless I request it. Another one would be that I dont like being woken up with my hair or skin touched, it jolts me awake and I can't get back to sleep.
We've had a few hard conversations about how it makes him/me feel, but this seems to come back up every month or so since around the 3 month mark. If this ends up being the thing that ends us, I think that's upsetting and sad. I can't change the way I am, and I don't think he can either.
Am I wrong for wanting some space sometimes?
TLDR: My boyfriend overwhelms me with physical touch, and acts like I'm the bad guy. It feels manipulative sometimes, not sure where to go from here.