I am using a burner account for this because I don't want anything identifiable that can trace back to me. I've been feeling a variation of this for a couple months now and I wanted some input before talking about it with my partner. For context, we're both men on the younger side (early-to-mid 20s) and have been in a relationship for about 1 and a half years.
My partner has had a sex toy collection for longer than we've dated, and while I never cared about it (hell, I've bought one with him), I've noticed lately that some jealousy is building inside of me over the toys, and I don't like this.
I think this is because I perceive that the toys are "getting more action" than me. We have a good amount of sex, I usually initiate, but it lately it really only involves me (I usually take a more "top" role) getting him to climax through oral/hand stuff, and I do enjoy that, I try giving my best, but I's say over 60% of the time he will take a nap and that's the end of it, and I'll have to go to the side and finish myself off. The other 40% he jerks me off until climax. In the past months, sex has felt a bit "systematic" I guess.
I've tried talking about the possibility of having penetrative sex, but he usually dismisses or tries to change the subject. This would be fine if I knew he just didn't like it, but his toy collection, that he brags a lot about using, includes many thematic dildos nearing/over 12 inches (30cm). While I don't compare in size to the toys, I don't believe I'm small at all, at 8 inches (18cm) myself, which I believe is a bit above average. I've even tried talking about introducing the toys into our sex life, which I think I'd enjoy, but he seemed to not enjoy the idea. I've tried asking what he likes and doesn't like in bed but we didn't really get anywhere.
Hell, these days he was talking about the toys with someone and joked that "my BFs is the one I use the most though" and tbh, I had to hold myself from blurting out a "since when?". I don't like feeling this way, it feels childish to be jealous of plastic and silicon. I'm making this post because I plan on talking to him about it, but I really needed some outside input on how I should, and where am I being silly. Thanks for reading.
TL;DR: I'm feeling jealous of my partner's sex toy collection, and need help to understand how should I approach the subject.