So I just want to know if this is normal or if other women have gone through it. Or if men have any thoughts on this.
My boyfriend gets really upset when I don’t orgasm during sex. He’ll get quiet, pouty, or say some hurtful small comments just because I didn’t finish. You can tell he’s very upset too and it just gets worse and worse. He is not able to come either if I don’t finish. So he starts to spiral and our relationship becomes rocky.
Sometimes I don’t enjoy it either because I’m thinking I need to orgasm to make him happy. And essentially it feels like I need to orgasm to keep our relationship happy. That creates such an immense pressure in my head I can’t focus on anything. So it’s like a continuing cycle.
For some context, this is a very new relationship. I don’t sleep around and the last time I had sex was a couple of years ago before I met him. I desire him a lot and I do feel sexual attraction towards him which makes this even worse. I’ve never came with another man before. Just him. I just can’t do it with him everytime on command. Because of the immense pressure.
I love him. He is very attractive and has a lot of pride with that. I will not leave him. However, this is causing a drift between us. I don’t want it to though. How do I fix this? Have any other people been through this?