I’m 22 and I can never tell what’s actually wrong with me when it comes to relationships. Every time things start getting emotionally real, I either shut down or overthink everything until the whole connection falls apart. I say I want something healthy, but when I actually get someone good, I panic.
My last relationship ended a few months ago. There wasn’t a big fight or anything. I just felt myself pulling away the moment things got deeper, and now I’m stuck wondering if I bailed because of fear, insecurity, or old patterns I never learned how to break. Meanwhile I still feel lonely and confused, like I sabotaged something that could’ve worked.
Has anyone else dealt with this? How did you figure out what was actually going on inside you?
TL;DR:
Whenever relationships get serious, I freeze or pull away even if the person is good for me. I don’t know if it’s fear, old patterns, or something else. Looking for advice from people who went through something similar.