I met my boyfriend 4 years ago on tinder and in many regards he has been very helpful. I have a very stressful career as a nurse that I do not like but need as it pays the bills, and as both his parents are doctors he's been helpful. The relationship has survived a nerve issue where every time we have sex he's in pain for a few days. However, I feel like I'm my boyfriend's mother despite being younger. I'm constantly nagging him to clean after himself, or take out the trash, and he continues to have horrible dandruff in part because he won't use the dandruff shampoo his doctor prescribed. A few years ago, he had a literal whole tooth have to be pulled due to poor dental hygiene.
I started working out a couple years ago to improve my health, although mostly due to body image standards in the gay community, and I feel like he is jealous of my progress although he is trying to improve.
Yesterday I managed to get last minute time off without pay to attend a friendsgiving, making multiple dishes for it, only for him to get excessively drunk after an outage to the gay bars and puke all over my car on the way home.
In many regards he's emotionally supportive, but he's physically useless. We almost never fuck as it leaves him in pain for a few days, and I have to nag him directly to clean the apartment or take care of himself. I don't think he's been the worst, but I just feel like I can do better, and I guess him puking all over everything directly after I talked with one of his friends about what to do with him seems an indication that maybe I need to try again. He's a sweetheart, but as much as I like him I feel like I need to do better.
tl:dr
I've had qualms about my boyfriend of 4 years for a while now, and after him puking all over everything in a friendsgiving he invited me to, I feel like I can do better.