We love each other, but slowly I start to think that's "it", everything is a compromise, nothing is "flowing".
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We live in Switzerland, he hates it here, and it's very hard for him to manage his daily life, find friends etc. He need help and assistance with everything, and I'm very independent. For me this life is very fullfilling, for him it's not. He's coming from the middle east, there people rely on each other with everything, and discuss literally every small matter thoroughly with everyone before making a decision. Therefore he's missing his home and wants to move back.
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I am very tidy and organised, I have a great calendar system and I lead my life according to that with of course some flexibility. I plan friends' meetings a week ahead, I organise dinners every Friday in our home and I plan way ahead for that, I have "bill payment" plan, a step-by-step career plan, etc. Of course sometimes I feel, but I shake it off and do it again, and I hope I will do better next time. For him, well he's all over the place, he has no plan, and he does everything last minute, causing both of us a lot of stress.
Smaller things as well:
– We value education differently, although he is a doctor, I can't beg himvfor the love of God to read a book, he cares about eating healthy, working out, and that's about it. For me reading and discussing the news, different political views, literature would be important, for him it's not, but he always mentions how I should workout more.
– He has no independence, he asks me where everything is, then never puts it back, keeps no order around himself, forgets everything, asks everything 10 times.
Is this a normal amount of compromise?
36M and 30F