On November 22nd, I found texts on my wife's phone where she and her affair partner made it clear what was going on. I was looking because I'd been suspicious for a while, so I told her I was done. She's been staying with her sister ever since, and now her sister won't leave me alone. She's frustrated with my wife for being an emotional wreck. She keeps texting me about how this isn't her fault, how she shouldn't have to deal with this. Honestly I agree, but the only way my wife says she'll be "comfortable coming home" is if I completely forgive her, which is not possible at the moment, and probably not ever.
I know I'm not the asshole and this isn't a "relationship problem", so that's why I've posted it here. I just needed to get this off my chest. I'm just so frustrated about this. I'm not the bad guy, I've never so much as yelled at my wife, much less anything more abusive. I've done a majority of the chores. I make a majority of the money. I took her to Disneyland twice a year for the last two years because that's the only vacation she wanted. But now, my in-laws seem to be under the impression that I'm the asshole. I want to explode, but I know that would only make my situation worse. Sorry if you had to read through all of this.