Like the title says :), I love my boyfriend so very much. I’m a very passionate lover and don’t plan on ever leaving him. But I am starting to get frustrated. We’re in our early 20s and have been together for a year now. We’re both each others firsts, so we both started with zero experience. We’re very into each other so we have sex a lot, around 1-3 times a day and this has been consistent throughout the year. It’s always rather quick tho and he always gets off, but then he leaves me horny and frustrated. Sometimes he does go down on me and it feels good but I’ve never been close to an orgasm, so after a while I just tell him to stop and we’ll just have sex. I don’t get it because on my own, I’ve always been able to come in a normal time so I know my body is not broken. I think one of the problems is he doesn’t communicate. He never asks me what feels good, and even if I ask him how he would like me to touch him he just says ‘idk’. I’m very vocal about what I like and I often give him instructions, but because he never asks himself I feel like I’m talking to a wall sometimes and he just doesn’t care as much. I know he wants this too but it’s like I’m the only one who’s trying to make it happen. The most frustrating thing too is I have a high libido so I always give into him, but never actually get satisfied. I’ve tried talking to him about it, and he always says he’ll try better next time and it will be ok but the sex always ends up the same and I end up being disappointed. It’s like he’s just avoiding the issue and I feel awkward to always be the only one to bring it up. We also never really talk about sex which I’m unhappy about. I just like this stuff so much and I want to try so many things and discuss with each other how we can make things better, but I feel like he just wants to get off and go on about his day. Are we sexually incompatible or can this be saved? And is this normal for couples my age? Idk how to fix it. I don’t want to be in an orgasmless relationship but I love him sm. I’m having so much sex but no real pleasure at all and it can’t be like this forever! Pls someone help, after a year I still feel like I’m new to this and I need advice.
Also we did try a toy, but it didn’t work on the one occasion we tried (I guess I was just too nervous, but when I tried again later on my own it worked) and it seems like he’s given up on that too because he never initiates trying it again. And I feel awkward asking cus I know he is insecure about this too and don’t want to be begging him for pleasure he hasn’t been able to give to me himself :/