My boyfriend (39m) & I (32f) have been together for about 2 years. And our sex is okay. It was good when we got together & it's got worse since. I'm very attracted to him & we have a good relationship.
I'm very insecure & I still can't manage to open up about what I want or need & I struggle with orgasms. I was married & I struggled with sex towards to the end of that. I haven't figured out how to recover from that. Regardless of how comfortable he tries to make the conversation, I don't find the words. I probably have a lot of shame.
He's very vocal & wants to have lots of conversation, but in his conversations he's made comments about how “he didn't have a problem with a girl before” & apparently all the girls he's been with have all the luck to vaginal orgasm. And a few other little comments that shut me down more. He doesn't understand they really turn me off.
We had sex today & he tried really hard for me. But I can't get out of my mind the things he says.
How do I turn off my mind off?! It’s so infuriating.