Sorry for the long post
not long ago i discovered my husband cheated. I kind of had a hint at the beginning, he wouldn’t stop talking about the girl and randomly he would tell me it was just a friendship that nothing was going on, I asked him to stop texting her, which he told me he did, and obviously I believed him. Also I need to add during this time I was pregnant. Now last week I felt like checking his tablet and of course he was still talking to her, in fact he never stop talking to her, reading the messages he was telling how he was falling for her, how he loved her, she tried to act like what they were doing was wrong , but still was welcoming and even encouraging his behavior, telling him how she didn’t want to be the reason he lost his family, the reason he hurt me but still wanted to talk to him , but didn’t want to keep hiding, also to add she has(or had) a boyfriend, she also said she didn’t want to be scared of calling him or texting him and how she didn’t want to keep talking with him just thru instagram. Thru the text it seems nothing “physical” happened, just them cuddling, and kisses in the cheek ( she stated in the text that she didn’t want to do that since the boyfriend ), he would make up lies at night to go see her but the visits were short ( honestly don’t remember well)and he would “hang” at her place When I discovered all this I went to him telling how I wanted to divorce him, he cried he apologized and he said he did not meant anything he said to her , that he just loved the attention she was giving him and since I was pregnant always in a bad mood and ignoring him he just went with it. He promised me he would stop talking to her, seems he blocked her every where when I ask him if he has seen her(oh forgot to say we are neighbors) he says no, when I ask if she tried to reach out to him he says no, which I kind of believe since his sister find out and send her and her boyfriend DMs in Instagram about the affair with screenshots, which if he was talking to her he would know because the last thing he wants is people to know he messed up like that ( our oldest hear the whole thing, she told a few friends at school and since is a small community word got around and they ask about it)every time I ask a question he answers them, sometimes he is vague with the answers like when I ask him about what she meant just talk thru instagram,since they were talking thru text all the time and seen each other. But since he can’t give a straight answer in some thing and some other don’t make sense like I saw some messages with one of his friends where he tells him the were together for 3 months , he said he was just “bulls…”or one text where he says he is been telling his friends about her since July , I’ve been feeling like reaching out to her to ask her side, is it crazy ? I told him we would work on it, but I can’t stop thinking about each one of the text, the ones where she says she loved the way his hands felt when he gave her a hug, how mean he was with me while been nice with her, how he would give her gifts just because while I couldn’t get that , I still love him he has been himself this past days and honestly I don’t know what to do….
Sorry if any misspelling words