I, 33F, want to know if I am in the wrong for telling my husband, 36M, that I will take my daughter and stay somewhere else with her. Long story short, we have four indoor cats. We have two male indoor cats that do not get along so we keep them separated at all times. One of those male cats tends to pee in the house to claim and mark his territory. Trust me we have gone to countless vet appointments. There is nothing wrong with his health. This is all behavioral. We have tried catnip, medication’s to calm him down, and nothing seems to work. Because of this, we keep him either in a room solely for him or in our porch. For the past six years, my husband feels bad that he is locked up so he will occasionally let him inside the house where he pees everywhere. I am typically the one finding the pee and cleaning it up because I always beat him to it and wake up earlier than him.
We have had countless fights over this because if anyone owns a cat, you know that cat pee is so hard to get out of furniture, couches, wood walls, etc. we have spent a lot of money, purchasing furniture and household items because of him peeing on it. Now we have a six month old daughter and all of her toys and playpen are in the living room. This is her first Christmas so I’m decorating the house for Christmas and this morning I found that he had peed on the Christmas tree. So naturally, I asked him if the cat was inside and he finally fussed up to it and out of anger I told him that if this keeps happening that we’re not staying in that house ( my daughter and I). I guess I want to know if I was out of line for saying this. It has been six years of dealing with this and for the past two years we did start putting him in diapers to come in the house and it has gotten better, but it will occasionally be maybe once a month where he’ll let him in without the diaper and state that he’s watching him, but I still end up finding pee in the morning. TIA