Husband and I have been together for about 8 years, married for 4. We had a bit of a shotgun wedding when I got pregnant, but we had been talking about marriage already for quite some time. It seems like everything went downhill after having our child.
In a nutshell, he doesn't respect me or even seem to like me anymore. He shows very little interest in my thoughts, opinions, and life. He blames me for everything and finds every excuse to criticize me. He has very specific ways he likes to do things and any diversion from that is automatically wrong in his book. Some of the things I've been criticized for include: how I bag groceries, how I organize my personal belongings, which temperature I use for the laundry….The list goes on. And he never expresses it in a kind or respectful way that would allow for some discussion. It's his way or the highway. Since he rarely shows interest in my life, I feel like we only ever have negative interactions. And all I seem to do is make him angry.
We've had so many conversations about this and nothing is really changing. For some context, we have an age gap and he was married once before. He never really gave me a straight reason as to why his first marriage ended, but now I think I've got a few good guesses.
I realize now after typing this how stupid I sound for tolerating all of this. He wasn't like this before and we had a great relationship. I'm just seriously questioning his ability to change for the better. Obviously this is just one side of the story, but maybe some of you here have been on the receiving end of this same kind of behavior? Or, maybe your spouse had these issues with you and you figured out a way to resolve it?