Hi everyone. I'm in a very happy marriage with a lovely man. We've been together for 10 years, happily married for several of them. Our sex life is good, regular, and vanilla.
It has become incredibly apparent to me over the last 5 or so years that my husband is NOT that vanilla. He has never pushed me, but has obviously mentioned some of his kinks, and they all revolve around the general field of femdom, x-dressing, pegging, gentle and not gentle. I am….not that. I am not opposed to it, but if I ever am asked to talk dirty, I clam up and have no idea what to say or end up saying something stupid. He never gets frustrated, but obviously I can tell something is not hitting, and I want to press that button! Like, I really really want to. I'd love to be able to do that. A few weeks ago I tied him up and gave him a blowjob with some edging, and it was great, but that was kind of the farthest I've gone and it required very little assertiveness.
Like, I'd like to wear skimpy domme outfits and say nasty things, but I just feel so insecure. Where do I start? How do I begin? Any help making these fantasies come true would be tremendous.