I’ve been with my partner for years and communication around sex has been very rocky. Hes not into anything “mainstream” that gets guys going, like lingerie, sexting, lewd pics, porn. It has been like that and I accepted it because we used to be all over each other, but it all changed a while back. I cannot exactly pinpoint when but we are down to once a month and suddenly a lot of things bother me because the one string of intimacy he was giving me is taken away.
I tried seducing him, light touches, kisses, being more bold, being more vocal about what I want and I get turned down. I tried asking what I should do make him find me sexy and if he is still attracted to me at all and according to him there is no issue and theres nothing i should do. But this is slowly killing me and messes with my head so much…
Is it really just being exhausted and stressed? For extended periods? Is there really nothing I could do to make him find me hot? I’m trying to keep fit, I take care of my hygiene, according to people I’m not ugly either, I’ve been asked out by colleagues before but I dont want other men’s attention, only his… Please help me understand what can I do!