I (23f) am typically socially very outgoing and body-positive. But the moment someone goes for taking off my bra I often get into a panic. I think it's a mix of insecurity about having a smaller chest plus just some kind of deeper vulnerability.
Because I'm so confident normally I think guys assume I'm very chill with everything and so when I freeze up they are more confused rather than supportive. And at the same time I don't want to necessarily explicitly talk about this beforehand because it just draws even more attention. Are there better ways to practically deal with getting topless during sex without feeling like I am under a microscope? Tricks that work?